Hello, -- Relationship is one of the top 3 topics that people consult with me about. It's no surprise. Everyone wants a fulfilling relationship, and yet so few people have one. What is going on? My perception from many years of
asking this question in the past for myself, and regularly hearing the question from my clients, is that we are taught that LIFE HAPPENS TO US and isn't something we have any say in. The victim mentality is so woven into our societies that we barely can perceive that it is the problem! While it is true that there are so many things out of our direct control, the one thing that the Universe shows time and time again is its' Holographic nature. Which means that things inside of
us show up outside of us, and vice versa. So when we have "I am a victim" woven into our psyche's, the experience of being a victim to shows up as a patterned experience. We then focus on BLAMING THE TYRANT and become further disempowered.
There are so many resources that one could use to help unwind this experience. I help people with personal sessions; there are countless books and other programs that one could consult. The method doesn't matter as much as the
AWARENESS that this is at the root of the problem. When we become EMPOWERED in the knowing that people that seem to be torturing us are just slaves to acting out our inner reflection for us, then we can make the shifts on the INSIDE, and watch the magic as the outer experiences shift around us.
I always love to find or figure out effective and inexpensive or free ways to do major inner work. Here is one such tool, an exercise you can do RIGHT NOW to help IMPROVE any
and all of your relationships and set you on a path for experiencing your DREAM relationships:
Pick a person or situation that you feel a victim of. Write down either a story or bullet points that summarize what you don't like about them, or what about their behavior makes you feel 'charged. Then OWN those things. It is a brave and sometimes difficult thing to do to look for the reflection, to see where in the same relationship or within other relationships or
situations might we act or have acted in the way that the seeming tyrant has acted to us. For instance, maybe this someone was condescending to you - when a telephone solicitor called, were you perhaps condescending to them? Maybe someone was impatient and intolerant of you. Was there someone at a store, or a neighbor's pet, or someone driving in front of you that you were impatient with or intolerant of? There is always a reflection, even if it isn't in the current
time. When you find it, and admit to it, even if it is just to yourself, something happens in your psyche. There is an unlocking, a balancing out, that occurs, a new level of accountability and compassion, and empowerment. You can do this as often as you like, with any and all situations from the present or past, or even projections into the future. You will be surprised at how things start to shift when you commit to owning the reflections others offer in your
life.
Another resource that can help create your dream relationships was created by a dear friend of mine, Emma Juniper, who has been with me on this quest for empowerment, and has stepped into a new level of creation with the things she has figured out. She has created an amazing program to help you do the same.
Check it out at this link - CREATE YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP - with Emma Juniper
